Some nights are harder than others.
I feel like everyone has their “one that got away,” be it a love interest or a lost friend or missed opportunity. For me, it’s music therapy.
I’ve written extensively on here about my journey through the music therapy program at Eastern Michigan University and the subsequent disaster that was my internship in Fort Wayne. The internship was traumatic in a lot of ways and really disillusioned me to the world of music therapy. It’s still a raw wound, if I’m honest.
Tonight, I broke down. I don’t know what my direction in life is anymore. I found myself excited at the prospect of working in a factory. Just like my dad before me. I know he wanted better for me. He wanted me to get that master’s, get that doctorate, and never have to set foot in a factory. He envisioned an easier life for me. He wanted me to break out of the blue-collar trap my family has been stuck in for generations. He believed in me so hard, he stayed alive to see me graduate.
Now, it’s hard to believe I’ll ever be cut out for anything aside from menial physical labor. I feel like this is my destiny. I’ve perished any dreams of becoming a music therapist, or a professor, or anything else to be honest. I’ll be lucky if I make enough money to have a family of my own someday.
I feel like the title of “failed music therapist” will haunt me forever, like a scarlet letter. I have this vision of me on my death bed, awaiting the end, and some well-intentioned nurse who knows I was a musician in a past life sends in a music therapist to comfort me. But I won’t be comforted. Instead, it’ll rip open the same wound that pains me now. I hate this for me. I don’t want to live with regrets, but I feel like I have no other choice. Music therapy has been ruined forever for me.
I’m tearing up at the gym writing this. That’s where I work now, and while it’s not a glamorous or esteemed position (and the pay is abysmal), there are perks. Just now, one of my regulars snuck up on me to startle me, and we had a good chat. I think talking to me makes her day — she takes care of her dad all day and seems lonely. Maybe that’s the best I can do, just try to bring a little light to wherever I end up working. Maybe someday I’ll bring in my guitar and serenade people as they come in, I don’t know. Maybe music therapy didn’t work out because something else will, and this entire thing will no longer eat at me. Maybe my cover of Chappell Roan’s “Good Luck, Babe!” will take off and catapult me to rock stardom, or at least allow me to make enough money from my music to have a decent enough life.
I have nothing left but this reckless optimism that won’t fucking die. And that’s gotta count for something.
JESSA JOYCE 