Music Reviews No One Asked For: Bon Jovi’s “New Jersey” Bonus Tracks

I’ve been itching to get back into “journalism,” or something resembling it. I enjoy writing about music (obviously), but my taste in music isn’t exactly current. Or good. So, welcome to the new series, Music Reviews No One Asked For, where I write about whatever I’m listening to at the moment, no matter how old or irrelevant or weird. Anyways, what better to start this series with than the object of my lifelong obsession, Bon Jovi.

Bon Jovi is admittedly not a critical darling. In fact, I’ve heard them described as “the Nickelback of the ’80s.” And to be honest, I don’t entirely disagree. Some of their music can err into cliche territory, especially more recent releases. That being said, they were the band that shaped my entire perspective on music and — let’s be real for a minute — have some catchy-ass songs in their extensive catalogue. In other words, I love this band to death, both for the music itself and for sentimental reasons, but I’m not so much of a stan that I can’t acknowledge their glaring weaknesses.

Anyways, back in 2014, Bon Jovi’s fourth studio album, New Jersey, was rereleased in honor of the band’s 30th anniversary, tacking on almost an entire second album’s worth of demos and outtakes. New Jersey is easily one of my favorite albums in Bon Jovi’s discography, so I couldn’t imagine what could possibly be added to improve upon it, but surprisingly, some of the new tracks were so good, I wasn’t sure why they were ever scrapped. Then again, Jon Bon Jovi didn’t want to release “Livin’ on a Prayer.”

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Maybe he’s not the best judge of those kinds of things.

Here’s a track-by-track breakdown of the bonus tracks. I’m not going to review the main album, as that’s probably been done to death by music critics with much better taste than me. This isn’t the Rolling Stone. This is the blog of a random dumbass with a journalism degree and nothing better to do.

“The Boys Are Back in Town”: This is Thin Lizzy’s “The Boys Are Back in Town,” recorded by Bon Jovi. There’s not much else to say about this track, but it kind of slaps.

“Love is War”: Written by Jon Bon Jovi and Richie Sambora as an obvious attempt to write another “You Give Love a Bad Name.” Scrapped because it sounds too much like “You Give Love a Bad Name.” This is one of the best songs in this list, but that’s to be expected, as it’s basically just “You Give Love a Bad Name.” Still not a bad song in its own right, in all fairness.

“Born to Be My Baby” (acoustic): Apparently, Jon believed this song would have hit number one if this version had been released, and I don’t disagree. This version benefits from a Spanish-influenced solo and more prominent backing vocals from Richie. Then again, there aren’t many Bon Jovi songs that wouldn’t be improved with more backing vocals from Richie.

“Homebound Train” (demo): The official version of this song was one of my favorites as a child, although I don’t know why. It’s a little forgettable next to all the other songs on New Jersey. The demo is okay. Some harmonica, some weak “woo-woos” from Jon that are sort of amusing, but overall nothing special.

“Judgement Day”: The lyrics of the band’s ’90s era utilized quite a bit of religious imagery, so this feels almost like a precursor to that. Like a lot of Bon Jovi songs, nothing especially profound is espoused, but it’s a certifiable earworm.

“Full Moon High”: The opening line “penny for your thoughts now, baby,” was recycled in Jon’s solo release “Miracle,” but I can’t give him too much grief for self-plagiarizing, as I’ve used lyrics from scrapped material in new songs. Also quite glaring is how the prechorus has aged like absolute milk in the same way as “Baby It’s Cold Outside.” “You say stop, I say go, I say yeah, you say no” comes across as a little skeevy in a post-#metoo culture. Otherwise, it’s one of the stronger songs in this list, lyrically.

“Growing Up the Hard Way”: They really wanted those “na na nas” on the album, because I swear I’ve heard it on at least three different songs already.

As a songwriter, JBJ’s strength lies in character building. You want to cheer for Tommy and Gina. You want to chill with Captain Crash and the Beauty Queen from Mars. You want Joey Keys to find a better life and for the protagonists from “Someday I’ll Be Saturday Night” get out of their funk. This song hits a lot of those same notes. The young groupie escaping from an abusive father, the would-be golden child whose drunk driving derailed his otherwise charmed life. Bon Jovi loves to create characters and subsequently break your heart for them.

“Let’s Make It Baby”: Ah yes, the triumphant return of the talkbox, first introduced in “Livin’ on a Prayer.” I have to admit I have a soft spot for this particular guitar effect. Maybe I have a Freudian excuse for this, as Peter Frampton was certainly the catalyst of my sexual awakening.

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DO YOU BLAME ME?

Anyways, speaking of things that are sexual, Bon Jovi was, for the most part, not. Sexy, perhaps, but compared to their contemporaries, Jonny and the boys look like nuns, so much so that my mom didn’t even bat an eye when I got interested in them as a youngin’. This song, though? This is the song I’m certain she’s happy I didn’t discover as a child. If, by the end of the song, there’s any doubt as to what it’s about, the ever-cheeky Richie makes it absolutely clear in the last five seconds.

“Love Hurts”: Not a cover of the song made famous by Nazareth but a good song nonetheless. Out of all of these tracks, this one is probably the most likely to get stuck in my head. Not a whole lot more to add, except that it’s a classic Bon Jovi bop.

“Backdoor to Heaven”: A classic mid-tempo ’80s ballad that may or may not be about butt stuff. This might actually be my favorite on here, if I’m honest. The desperation in Jon’s voice, coupled with those soaring harmonies from Richie, it’s just … ugh, chef’s kiss. This one should absolutely have made it to New Jersey. What the heck, guys?

“Now and Forever”: I’m sure if I heard this at any other time in Bon Jovi’s history, I’d write this off as just another vaguely cliche song. Having heard it after Richie’s departure, I just …

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I’m not at all emotional about this.

Anyways, “a heart’s just a heart and songs have to end, dreams will be dreams but friends will be friends now and forever” just hits differently.

Come back Richie. We need you.

“Wild is the Wind” and “Stick to Your Guns” (demos): My two favorites from the album proper, but the demos don’t really add much. They’re literally just the songs we know and love, but less polished and not as inspired. I didn’t even feel the need to cover them separately. If you’re at all curious about these, don’t be. Just listen to the official versions. Take my word on this.

“House of Fire”: If you hadn’t told me, I wouldn’t have guessed that this was written by Alice Cooper and Joan Jett. This feels like a Bon Jovi song. That’s really the only thing I have to say about this.

“Does Anybody Really Fall In Love Anymore?”: Repeat after me, Jon: It’s okay to lower the key. If you can’t reach the high notes, it’s okay to drop it down a half-step or so. It’s not a big deal. Richie and David are big boys. They’ll figure out how to play it.

As an aside, this song was also recorded by Cher, because there was a weird time during the late ’80s when Bon Jovi and Cher collaborated. Anyways, Cher is an absolute queen, and even when recorded by her, this song is kind of boring. “Love is War” would have been a better choice for her. In fact, I’d gladly saw off my own toe with a nail file to hear her cover it. Seriously.

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Cher if you agree.

“Diamond Ring” (demo): I almost skipped over this song. The official version was released with These Days years later, and it was the only song I didn’t really like off that album as a child. After all, it was slow and boring, and it was about getting married and boring stuff, unlike “My Guitar Lies Bleeding in My Arms,” which was about more kid-friendly problems like, uh, contemplating suicide.

I’m glad I didn’t pass this one up, though, as the demo is a thousand times more badass than the version that actually saw a proper release. Even without being explicitly about sex, this song manages to feel almost as horny as “Let’s Make It Baby.” Those guitars. That bass. Jon’s rasp. Good Lord.

Wait, was Bon Jovi actually the thirstiest band of the 1980s?

Confessions of the Class Weird Kid

“Eccentric.”

That was the word my older sister used to describe me when I was struggling as a child to fit in. Not necessarily wrong or bad. Just eccentric.

I supposed she was right, although I wanted so badly to hide it. My social skills were admittedly lacking. People, especially kids my own age, were a strange anomaly to me. I wanted so badly to connect, but it was as if a brick wall stood between me and them. Despite my lack of friends, there were things I sought solace in, primarily things I obsessed over. Things like Bon Jovi, Pokemon, birds, and whatever else I could learn as much about as humanly possible and further alienate myself from my peers.

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My nickname was “Tweety Bird.” It was absolutely not an affectionate nickname.

This is all textbook Asperger’s, looking back, but the idea that I was on the spectrum at all didn’t enter my mind until I was well into my teen years. The therapist I’d had at age 13 had mentioned the possibility to my mother, but I don’t recall her ever telling me for several years. And why would she? Back then, “autism” was even more of a dirty word than it is now. Why supply the kids who gave me hell in elementary and middle school even more fodder?

A few days ago, this popped up on my Facebook feed.

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This comic hit me hard. I slipped through the cracks as a kid because I got good grades and didn’t cause any issues in the classroom, but no one ever bothered to address my difficulties relating to others and making friends.

You see, when you’re on the spectrum, you’re often forced to “mask” the quirks that make you, well, you. You’re a square in a circle world, and you better believe that world is going to hammer your edges hard until you barely resemble the shape you began as. I remember when I first became aware of my own weirdness, somewhere around seventh grade. The stereotypical teen dilemma. I had a crush on a boy, and a popular one at that. I observed the way his friends acted and dressed and tried my hardest to emulate that. Gone were the clothes I felt comfortable in, and I put away the childish things I was obsessed with in favor of more typical interests. It got easier in high school. I was lucky enough to come of age at a time when the “manic pixie dream girl” type was trendy, so suddenly it became “cute” to be the weird girl. It took me a while to learn to pass as “normal,” but I became damn good at it. By senior year, I was class president and colorguard captain, but I still felt like I was concealing parts of myself.

That’s one of many reasons why autism is so hard to detect in adulthood — you’ve had all these years to learn how to mask these quirks. By the time you ask your current therapist about it, you’re met with a shrug. You might be some variety of autistic, but it doesn’t affect your life, so why bother getting a proper diagnosis? You’ve held down a job, you’ve had relationships — hell, you’ve been married! You’re not a “true” Aspie. And to be honest, this hurts. Your identity is entirely invalidated by the hammers that smushed in your edges to make you a socially acceptable circle. Or perhaps hexagon, because you know you’ll never be the perfect little circle everyone expects you to be. No matter how well you pass, you’ll always feel “other.”

That’s why I want to be more vocal about my experiences with Asperger’s and being on the autism spectrum, “proper” diagnosis or not. Because someday, some little girl not unlike my younger self might read this and realize that she doesn’t need to change herself for anyone.

It’s okay to be eccentric.

These Days, The Stars Hang Out of Reach

So I fell down a pretty sizable nostalgia hole lately.

Anyone who knew me in my childhood years will tell you I was a pretty eccentric kid who, for whatever reason, latched onto the strangest things to an almost obsessional degree, starting with Shania Twain when I was just a toddler and cycling through everything from parakeets to Pokemon to vintage audio.

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Shout-out to the poor librarian who scoured the entire building for a book on 8-tracks.

My biggest obsession, bar none, was Bon Jovi. I lived Bon Jovi. I breathed Bon Jovi. Normal kids played house; I played Bon Jovi. I still remember all the starter Pokemon each band member had in my make-believe game, because my idea of “fun” was acting out bizarre crack fics involving my favorite musicians, video games, professional wrestlers for some reason, and whatever else I liked at the moment. I’m pretty sure I had a Bon Jovi-themed birthday party. While all the other kids wanted to be marine biologists, I wanted to be Bon Jovi. I probably could have told you what color Tico Torres’ toothbrush was. And of course, right above my bed, I had a huge poster of Jon Bon Jovi and Richie Sambora.

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This exact one!

These two were absolutely iconic to me back then. It’s not that I found them attractive — I mean, I certainly did, but that wasn’t the main appeal for me. They were more than a rather unconventional teenybopper crush for a girl growing up in the age of boybands. They represented something I related to, something I wanted to be someday. And their friendship with each other was integral to that. The way they wrote together, the way they harmonized, even the way they looked at one another — I wanted that kind of connection with someone. And I knew no matter what happened, no matter where life would take me, I could always count on Jon and Richie to be there, my first “friends” of sorts, by virtue of writing the songs that made me feel something as a lonely kid.

When I picked up the guitar at 10, I learned that music was the telephone wires that could connect a shy, eccentric girl to the outside world. It was my form of communication, and as I got older, music was this sacred thing, something akin to intimacy for me. The break-up of my old band hit me harder than almost any romantic break-up I’ve experienced.

Perhaps that’s why the fact that Richie is no longer with Bon Jovi hits me in such a sharp, visceral way. It feels like I lost a friend.

Sometimes it’s hard to come to terms with the fact that I’ve grown up. I’ve written extensively about my quarter-life crisis on here, mostly my fears of getting old and not accomplishing everything I’ve wanted to accomplish, but there’s another facet I’m just now coming to terms with — change. I’ve never feared change because in the past, I always had so many positive things to look forward to, but you forget that the future is chock full of unpleasant surprises and inevitabilities as well. The places you loved will be torn down someday, and all material things are destined to crumble into dust. As your own body grows weaker, the people you love will age and eventually die. On a less grim but still somber note, your relationships will evolve and change too. New connections are made as old ones fade into the past. I realize my friend group now differs drastically from my group ten years ago, and while I occasionally reconnect with those old friends over coffee or beer, it never goes back to how it was. Life continues rolling along in a straight unwavering line.

I just watched a video of “It’s My Life” being played live through the years. I remember the first time I heard that song and how enamored I was with it, how I’d freak out every time it came on the radio. I remember the first time I saw Bon Jovi play it live on some VHS tape I’m honestly surprised I didn’t wear out. The video started out with that performance, and showed a snippet of performances from each year thereafter. In a weird way, as I watched the band grow and change, I felt like I was watching myself grow alongside them. And of course, after 2013, after Richie’s departure, there was a whole different energy to the music. That connection wasn’t there anymore. Nothing about the music itself changed, but I could feel it. And it broke my heart.

This isn’t the first time I’ve waxed poetic over Bon Jovi on this blog, but no matter what other music I get into, they’ve always been my “comfort band,” the auditory equivalent of a warm blanket. They’ll always have a special place in the depths of my heart, even in the face of change, both in the band and in myself. No matter what, I still have the memories. I still recall screaming along with Jon and Richie at my very first concert. I still remember my old friends singing me to sleep in my childhood bedroom. And the gift they gave me, the music, is something time, age, and change can never take away.

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“I’ll be there for you, these five words I swear to you.”

AIOIF: Irrational Fear #1: The creepy headless guy I swore lived in my grandma’s furnace

I remember reading somewhere that the very first memory you can recall in your lifetime says a lot about the direction your life will take. My first memory was waking up from a nap on top of a giant pile of rugs in a sketchy flea market that no longer exists. I really don’t think says anything about me except that I have this uncanny ability to fall asleep in the weirdest places.

My second memory, however, was Furnace Man.

Furnace Man lived in my grandma’s old blue boiler furnace, hence the name. He was tallish, wore a plaid shirt, and had no head. Every now and then, he’d leave the furnace to stomp around my grandma’s house. I always imagined him dancing to a deep, booming beat, like some kind of creepy timpani. Also, he had a name, but whatever it was is now buried in the annals of my stupid brain. I think it might have been Ernie or Tim or something.

Needless to say, Furnace Man wasn’t real. There never was a flannel-wearing, headless being living in the furnace, but that didn’t stop him from being real to me. And keep in mind, I was like, two. Toddlers aren’t supposed to be scared of things. They’re supposed to be dumb and innocent and prone to questionable decisions like drawing on walls or eating Legos. They don’t stare blankly into the dark abyss of a utility room, expecting to see a decapitated hipster Slenderman crawling out of a furnace. I would avoid the room at all costs, or else freak out and cry, and I literally didn’t know the words to articulate what it was I was even afraid of.

I guess this is a good indicator that I was destined for a life of anxiety issues. Furnace Man never died. Not even when I found out years later that “Furnace Man” was just my dad getting stuck in a too-small shirt one Christmas Eve while trying it on in the utility room. My mind took the smallest, stupidest memory and twisted it into something horrifying. It’s almost like my head has this amazing ability to make monsters out of nothing. But isn’t that basically what anxiety is in the first place?

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One evening at a particularly intense therapy session, I had an epiphany — I cannot remember a time when I wasn’t afraid of something.

That’s not to say I spent my entire life up until now cowering in the corner of a warm, safe library or something, hiding from the outside world (although that was a good portion of it). In fact, if I’m honest, I take a lot of pride in how stupidly brave I am. Like, heights don’t phase me. Take me to any old theme park and I’ll be the first to get in line for whatever ride everyone else is trying to avoid. I’m still the designated spider slayer at my job, and I’m the idiot who got two feet away from an alligator on vacation in Florida. The point is, all the stuff normal people are supposed to be afraid of are not even concerns of mine.

But that’s not to say I’m fearless.

In fact, in my feeble attempt to peel back the layers of the suck-onion that is my never-ending war on my own stupid brain, I made a list of the horrifically nonsensical fears I’ve dealt with at one point or another. This is not an exhaustive list, even though it definitely freaking looks like it. These are the fears that, for one reason or another, stand out in my memory.

So why am I going through the trouble of writing all of this down? See, this is more than some cathartic exercise. Mental illness is this big, stupid elephant in the room almost everyone notices but never really takes the time to fully understand. The world’s idea of life with anxiety is drastically different from actual life with anxiety. In fact, when I came out of the presumably well-organized OCD closet after learning my official diagnosis, I got a slew of “Oh, I’m going to bring you over to clean my house sometime!” (Pro tip: Do not ever say this to someone with OCD. I pinky-promise it will not end well.) The truth is, nobody actually likes being OCD. It’s not something you’re proud of. It’s not some cute, hipster-girl-with-Zooey-Deschanel-hair quirk that automatically turns you into the stereotypical manic pixie dream girl.

It’s not. It’s a living hell. One where sometimes death itself seems like the only way out.

That’s why I wanted to get my experiences in writing and let the soft, tender underbelly of my mind be exposed to the world. Because if even one person out there realizes they’re not alone in this, everything I’ve gone through will be worth it. Because if I realized I wasn’t alone in this years ago, I would have opened up and sought help sooner. Because you can’t fight this battle alone. Because nothing in this world has the power to destroy a life quite like mental illness.

This is the story of the lifelong love-hate relationship between me and my head.