This is the final installment in my memoir project, written as a series of letters to my future daughter. Here are the previous entries: Part One, Part Two, Part Three, Part Four, Part Five, Part Six, Part Seven, Part Eight, Part Nine, Part Ten, Part Eleven, Part Twelve, Part Thirteen, Part Fourteen, Part Fifteen, and Part Sixteen
I’ve been a writer my entire life. It’s almost as entwined with my being as music is. I love stories, and I love telling stories. The story you just read is my story, so far at least. God willing, I’ll have another 70 years on this giant rock we call home. I still want to see you grow up, make a living for yourself, perhaps even have children of your own, should that be in the cards for you.
Nothing lasts forever, which is a hard truth that I’m struggling with as I write these words. Buildings become decrepit, objects get lost, people change and evolve and eventually die, and there’s nothing you can do about it. We are as impermanent as the leaves of an autumn tree. But the things we create outlive us.
I started this project as a way to document my time here. I may be just another woman amongst billions of other people with their own interesting lives, but there will never, ever be another me. And there will never be another you, either.
Isn’t it fascinating to realize that every single person ever has their own story? There are eight billion intersecting storylines happening as I write this, eight billion unique lives that will never happen again. And that’s not counting the billions upon billions of people who have already come and gone. Maybe they left a legacy, or perhaps they were forgotten to time. It’s the latter that fascinates me most, more than the famous folks who went on to become legends. It’s the people whose stories will never be known, whose names were lost to history. It makes me sad to think about too long, if I’m honest.
Cadence, if you do nothing else with your time here, I want you to write. All the time. About everything. It doesn’t have to be grammatically perfect or even presentable. Just write down your life and experiences, the same as I’ve written mine for you. Someday, if you have kids, they’ll want to know who you were and where they came from. And even if you don’t have kids, you’ll come back to your diary or journal someday and remember how beautiful life was. Moments are as fleeting as existence itself. One day, you’ll be old and gray, but the memories you’ve made will be forever preserved through your journals.
I want to leave you with this. Leave a legacy. Don’t be content to be forgotten to time. Live without abandon, and leave something to be remembered by. Do great things, and be exceptional to everyone you meet. And always, always lead with love. We will all die, but love lives on forever. I know I’ve loved you long before you were ever born, and I’ll love you long after I’m gone.
Wherever you go in this life, I’ll be with you always.
JESSA JOYCE 